Corrine Barraclough was a columnist for the Daily Telegraph when she wrote this amazing story. I was captured by the title: “The Secret Grief of Abortion” which comes as no surprise
As did a kind of term-of-art mentioned later by a counselor who deals with traumas: “disenfranchised grief.” I looked up the term and it refers to grief that is not recognized by society. Examples range from the loss of a pet to moving from a home that is filled with meaning to suicide.
Another definition of disenfranchised grief is “when your heart is grieving but you can’t talk about or share your pain with others because it is considered unacceptable to others.”
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What a perfect illustration of what so many women—and not a few men—endure after an abortion.
Barraclough begins by talking about the walls we build “to silence people in pain.”
Complicated, intricate strands knot themselves around people’s throats as they try to walk through life collecting unexplained self-destructive behaviour.
Here is one: for too long society and the medical profession have denied any negative aspects of abortion. That’s not helpful to those trying to navigate the aftermath of abortion.
At what emotional cost?
Client care manager at Abortion Grief Australia (AGA), Amy Chia, tells The Saturday Telegraph: “Abortion takes a toll on both men and women — people just don’t want to talk about it. At AGA we see vulnerable men and women constantly.”
But to acknowledge that there can a ghastly price to pay when we take a baby’s life—or encourage (or coerce) a woman to do so—is both the ultimate elephant in the room and something so terrible we must insist it doesn’t exist.
Chia explained that “There is no one common way for post-abortion grief and trauma to present itself.”
“After having an abortion, a mother may treat their children differently. Psychologists talk about ‘good enough parenting’ as being what everyone needs to aim for.
“It means being present to the child to meet their physical and emotional needs in a realistic way. When you shut down pain, you shut down positive emotions.
“Some women who struggle with grief, loss and guilt after abortion may find it difficult to experience the joy of having a new child in their presence. Women are feeling things they don’t understand.”
Another counselor told Barraclough
“Many remain unaware of the grief or trauma that can fester quietly for years, or the impact on children of women who had terminations. It’s creating a generation who can struggle to bond with their babies.”
Men can suffer grievously as well—even more of an unpalatable truth.
I re-read Barraclough’s fine piece and she concluded by asking what happens when this trauma surfaces years later? She has no answer, since she does not want to be seen as taking a position on abortion.
But there are places for women (and men) to turn to—pro-life helping organizations such as Rachel’s Vineyard “where women and men can express, release and reconcile painful post-abortive emotions to begin the process of restoration, renewal and healing.”
But surely Barraclough is correct when she concludes
The first step, surely, is giving this issue credence. Having heavily edited conversations to make sense of a narrative often means a silent elephant in the room. This is one of those times.
It is one of those crucial conversations that silence isn’t helping.
This is an Achilles heel in society — and it’s time to start.
LifeNews.com Note: Dave Andrusko is the editor of National Right to Life News and an author and editor of several books on abortion topics. He frequently writes Today’s News and Views — an online opinion column on pro-life issues.
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